1. Permissive Parenting or Indulgent
Permissive parenting is a style of parenting where parents permit their children to do pretty much whatever they want to do.
Here is the interesting part, there are very few limits, guidelines, rules or boundaries with this style of parenting.
These parents tend to be very loving, provide guidelines in a friendly way and have a close and conflict-free relationship with their children.
However as the children grow up, the effects of permissive parenting start to show.
Most importantly, the key person in permissive parenting is the father or mother, commonly known as the biological parents of a child.
Apart from those, a guardian such as an elder sibling, legal guardian, aunt, uncle or grandparents, may also have different roles in rearing the child.
In the cases of abandoned or orphaned children, they receive parental care from non-parent or non-blood relations.
Characteristics of permissive parenting:-
- Parents feel that their children learn best from less interference.
- Permissive parents have a friendly approach to their children.
- These parents are very forgiving and have an attitude of children will always be children.
- Besides that, they are forgiving and only step in when there is a problem to address with their children.
- These parents convince their children to have a talk about their problems but put little efforts in their poor choices.
- Children brought up by permissive parents tend to struggle academically.
- They have more behavioral problems as they don’t appreciate authority and rules.
- These children often have low self-esteem and may report a lot of sadness.
- These children are often referred to by others as “spoiled’.
- They have poor feeding habits and indulge in eating less healthy foods and become prone to lifestyle conditions like obesity.
Advantages of permissive parenting:-
1. Creativity is encouraged
Most permissive parents believe that creativity is encouraged by allowing their children freedom.
They want their children to be free thinkers with minimal hindrances and drawbacks.
2. Relationship is Key
Permissive parents prioritize on building a good relationship with their children.
This is normally a reaction to their upbringing because of their unhappy or distant relationship when they were growing up.
3. Conflict is minimal
- The permissive parent avoids quarrels with their children at all cost and as a result, parents give in to their children’s demands.
- While positive effects of permissive parenting propel you to consider this style of parenting, there are serious drawbacks to it too.
Disadvantages of permissive parenting
1) Struggle overpower
- As a child of a permissive parent becomes older, it becomes clear to the child that they are indeed in charge.
- The parents always avoid conflict with their children and subsequently, the child always calls the shots and gets whatever they want.
- This is especially when there is a sign of a strong argument or bad mood.
2) Lack of motivation
- A child of a permissive parent has little drive or motivation as they grow up with very few limits, boundaries and rules.
- However, when parents set clear boundaries, expectations and rules, it allows children to have exclusive goals within these limits.
3) Critical compromise
- Permissive parents have to constantly make compromise about things that are important to them.
- They at times allow their children to be disrespectful to them for the sake of not making a scene.
- As a result of children being disrespectful, these parents find themselves allowing their children a lot of screen time, rather than the children doing their homework.
- Ordinarily, permissive parents value good behaviour and good school grades.
- Therefore, good behavior and grades would have to be sacrificed to allow their children make their own choices, even though they are unwise and harmful.
4) Lack of self-discipline
Permissive parenting often means that a child doesn’t learn at an early age how society is structured on certain rules and regulations.
In shot, permissive parents do not discipline their children, and hence it is difficult for a child to learn self-discipline.
A child raised in such a surrounding is likely to struggle with respecting any kind of order either in school or the workplace.
When parents do not learn to set limits on their children, the children do not develop the ability to stand anger and stresses of life.
They also do not develop self-discipline, therefore not able to manage themselves and as a result end up being referred to by others as ‘ brats’.
Permissive parents make constant compromises about things that are important to their children.
These parents often let their children indulge on television time rather than focusing on schoolwork. Even though they know it affects their children academic time.
To sum it up , these compromises make parenting less rewarding because parents sacrifice expectations that are important to their children.